Okay. I have to admit, I jumped into my feels during
JC’s segment during the family videos portion of the show because I’m a
compassionate, empathy-driven person and I’m an LGBTQ ally. If I had been the
producer in charge of that DR session, I would have burst through that
production door to give him a hug because he needed one. We would’ve had a good
cry together and I would have made sure he left the DR feeling much better
about the situation.
HOWEVER!
I will ABSOLUTELY NOT excuse his behavior in the house
because of his tragic relationship with his parents/family. JC is NOT the first
gay person to be basically disowned by their parents/family because of their
sexual orientation, and, very sadly and very unfortunately, he will NOT be the
last. The fact that this situation is his reality makes his behavior in the
house MUCH MORE appalling and MUCH MORE disappointing.
You would think with all of the adversity that JC has
had in his life, and probably deals with every day of his life, would influence
him to be the better person and TREAT PEOPLE HOW HE WANTS TO BE TREATED,
but NO. JC has not learned compassion. He has not learned to respect others. He
has not learned how to forgive. He has not learned how to acknowledge his mistakes
and apologize. He has not learned any of the important lessons we are meant to
learn in our lives to be the best we can be and be the change we want to see
in the world.
And honestly, a lot of BB fans haven’t learned that
lesson either. I find the Twitter # page for Big Brother seasons to be a LOT
more interesting and a much better way to observe the social experiment that is
Big Brother. You want to know the truth about society in America today? Watch
Big Brother, watch the live feeds, and keep tabs on social media when people
are talking about Big Brother. It’s alarming, frightening, terrifying, maddening,
and very, very sad.
This is a wake- up call to America that Big Brother
has been blaring since season one with the help of Survivor. I refer you to this article about how different Survivor and Big Brother are with how they edit their shows, how they present their cast members, and how they deal with
controversial issues.
No one is perfect. We are not here to be perfect. We
are here to learn how to transcend, embrace our differences, and create a more
peaceful, loving society.
To wrap this up: I have empathy for JC, but I do not like
him as a person. He’s played a very good social game, but I cannot condone his deplorable
behavior in the house. I couldn’t be friends with him in real life, but if I
ever met him I would give him a hug, express how sad it makes me that his
family doesn’t support him, and I would let him know that he did some things
that really bothered me when he was in the house and I would explain why things
were inappropriate and offensive to me.
I would love to meet JC and have a real conversation
with him, but he reminds me too much of my ex-best friend who is a gay male who
voted for Trump, thinks a woman’s job is to raise kids, cook, clean, and be
subservient to their husbands, doesn’t believe that two gay men should be
allowed to raise children, never acknowledges when he’s been offensive, never
apologizes for being disrespectful, feels like he’s entitled to act however he
wants regardless of how his actions and words impact others… And HIS parents
TOTALLY accept him as a gay, (he’s white), male, even though we are in a very
conservative, small town community. Everyone loves him. Men and women both.
So… JC gets no excuses for his behavior regardless of
his situation with his family. Even when a family is supportive, a gay man can
still act like and be a total douchebag and get away with it because he gets a “CUTE
EDIT”. My ex-friend presents himself to the public in the same way that
production presents JC to TV viewers and in reality: it’s not cute, funny, endearing,
charismatic, or adorable.
About my ex-friend: I’m sad we aren’t friends right
now, I love him like a brother, but he owes me an apology and until he
acknowledges his actions and apologizes – I’m better off without him causing
drama in my life. And I feel the same way, basically, about JC. I need him to acknowledge his behavior as inappropriate and apologize.
Thanks for reading. Be excellent to each other and party on, dudes.
